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Last week, I addressed my fellow wives (Calling all wives…has SEX become a chore?) and offered a few easy steps for helping them get intimacy with their spouses back on track! Well this week, I’m talking to the husbands. One thing I love about men is that they are direct, straight to the point and don’t need a lot of explanation, so fellas that’s how I’m going to give it to you!
If you didn’t already know, most men are compartmentalized and most women are relational. What does that mean? It means that women like to talk…A LOT and men don’t! Men want headlines and women want to take you on a conversational journey, often leaving you like a deer in headlights. Ever felt completely lost in your wife’s conversation and done everything in your power to stay focused and engaged? KEEP READING! I know I have left my husband on the side of the road in conversation, many a day. When he starts staring right through me, is when I know the conversation is over! But, don’t fret, the RELATIONSHIP REVOLUTION has come to the rescue. I am going to give you some quick tips that will help bring harmony, love and happiness now, while priming the pump to have intense intimacy with your wife later! Isn’t that what you want?
1. HELP, HELP, HELP! Help your wife with the household chores. Offer to HELP her with the kids and get her outside HELP if she needs it! The one thing that does not play in your favor is when you sit on the couch and watch the game; while we whirl around like the cleaning fairy listening to you hoot and holler at who just made the latest tackle! Pause the game and ASK, “Baby, how can I help you?” TIP # 1: Take the initiative to help. This is a great form of foreplay for us!
2. COMMUNICATE YOUR TIME FRAME. What does this mean? When your wife asks you to do something for her and you tell her yes, she usually means RIGHT NOW! Not a month from now! So, if it’s something that you cannot get to right away, then please communicate that to your wife. It will help her manage her expectations. But take note she WILL expect whatever she asked, to be done the minute you said you were going to do it! TIP #2: Be a man of your word! Make sure what you say gets done when you said it would!
3. Show a SINCERE INTEREST. What makes your wife unique? Ask her what she’s passionate about! Make the extra effort to create an environment where your wife can come to you like one of her girlfriends (I know this one’s hard). Allow her to download her inner most thoughts & ideas with you. DO that and…YOU HAVE HIT THE JACKPOT! DING, DING, DING, DING! As wives, we want to share ALL of our thoughts and dreams with our husbands. The only reason we don’t is because we either feel rushed to tell the story (we have to squeeze it in during the commercials of your favorite tv show or game) or we feel you really don’t care. TIP #3: Make your wife and her passion a PRIORITY!
4. TIP #4: Take out ALL of the trash in ALL of the trash cans in the house…and make sure to PUT A BAG BACK IN THE TRASH CAN when you are done!
5. TIP #5: THANK YOUR WIFE for being an amazing friend, mom and support, regularly!
Now husbands…you have all of the necessary ingredients for Hot Sex on a Platter! Enjoy!
WIVES, PLEASE forward your husbands this link!
HUSBANDS, if your wife doesn’t RESPOND “accordingly,” send me her email!
Adrian and Christy Jones are the head coaches for Marriage In Training, a division of the RELATIONSHIP REVOLUTION. Christy Little Jones, LLC, is the coaching and resource center leading the Relationship Revolution. Its focus is on inspiring more intentional interactions within the key relationships that most impact people’s lives. Through Christy Little Jones, LLC, individuals create Fierce Partnerships that support their divine purpose in every area life and in every critical role – as wife, husband, mother, father and sister-friend. www.christylittlejones.com